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Your chance to be the designer…

I was on the phone just before I began writing this and we were talking about whether or not the things that make up our days are in alignment with what is most important to us.

This is actually something I’ve given quiet a lot of thought to and continue to effort toward, always a work in progress.

I’m very clear on my values…..

Faith
Family
Health/Self-care
Friendship
Learning
Service/Generosity
Adventure/Play
Community
Creativity

I also know that when something ticks off more than two or three from the list it’s a big win.  For example,workout out (health) with a friend (friendship), especially in a group fitness class (community) that I’ve never taken before (learning).

This is a valuable decision making tool.

Many of us have a hard time with that elusive word – No.  When something truly doesn’t support your values, it can be a little easier to say no.

Even things that are ‘must dos’ can be tied into the values.  For example calling my mom or a friend (family/friendship) while I’m putting away laundry or popping on an audio book (learning) when I have to do a lot of driving.

Since I’m a paper planner gal, I like to use lots of colors when planning my week.  Fun stuff in orange, workouts and self-care in pink, business generating activities in green, etc.  I can see at a glance if my week is out of proportion.  Sometimes it just will be that way.  And that’s ok.  But if it’s that way week after week, something is off balance.  It reminds me to make a shift.

This is your one precious life, how will you design it?

Recent reads….

I’ve been focusing lately on releasing some of my time sucks (too much Facebook surfing) and replacing it with what fills me (like more time to read each day).

I’ve always been an avid reader.  I LOVED the day when the Bookmobile would come to town and I read every single Nancy Drew book as a kid.

I love many different genres and always aim to take time to read every day.  (You can hear thoughts about this on one of our recent podcasts.).

I also love getting recommendations.  I accumulate my reading list on my Amazon “save for later” list.

I don’t necessarily purchase them all from there, I’m still a library gal, but it’s handy to drop and save books quickly when I hear an intriguing suggestion.

So I thought I’d start sharing some of my recent reads to garner others’ thoughts and suggestions or in case you’re looking for your next read.

Here’s a bit of what I’ve been up to lately in the book department…..

Small Great Things – Jodi Picolut.  I listened to this one on Audible.  Fabulous readers!  This was a very thought provoking story challenging our perceptions on race and forcing us to look closely at our prejudices.  I highly recommend it!


Small Great Things: A Novel (Amazon Link)
Getting Things Done – Peter Allen. I read the updated version of this classic.  It’s chock full of methods to create  more organization in your life.  I was pleased to see I was already using a lot of these ideas, but found several strategies to bridge some of the gaps.  Little by little I’m refining my systems. It’s not so much about having the perfect filing or planning system (yes, that’s the focus of a lot of the book), but about freeing your mind from the tasks nagging at our mind to open up to creativity and freedom.  I know I’ll refer back to this one often.


Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity (Amazon Link)
My Name is Lucy Barton – Elizabeth Strout. A friend recommended this one and though we usually have similar tastes, I thought it was just ok.  Definitely not much action in this book at all.


My Name Is Lucy Barton: A Novel (Amazon Link)
You Negotiate Like a Girl: Reflections on a Career in the National Football League,  – Amy Trask.  I knew nothing about Amy Trask, former CEO of the Oakland Raiders, before reading this book.  Her main message is about achieving success irrespective of gender in an almost soley male dominated field.  I found her insights into the NFL to be interesting and her career inspiring, however I thought the book was heavily weighted on her relationship with Al Davis, owner of the Raiders.  Al was really a pioneer in being blind to gender, race or age, but still a good story.


You Negotiate Like a Girl: Reflections on a Career in the National Football League (Amazon Link)
I Know How She Does It –Laura Vanderkam.  Having read, and thoroughly enjoyed her first book, 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, I was not surprised to find this book chock full of revelations.  In her latest book, Vanderkam studies 1001 actual days in the lives of high-achieving women and shares anecdotes on how we can design our lives in alignment with what our priorities are.  I did my own time log for a week after reading the book and


I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time (Amazon Link)
A Man Called Ove – Fredrik Backman.  Listened to this one on Audible as well right now. Quirky, but I really enjoyed it.  Plus I see that it’s out as a movie on Netflix as well.  Can’t wait to check it out.


A Man Called Ove: A Novel (Amazon Link)
 

 

Got several more underway right now….so look for a second installment soon.

What are you reading?

 

 

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It was a challenge at first….

Hope you’re creating a wonderful week for yourself.

I’m just back from some R&R at one of my favorite spots, Kripalu. I’ve been going there for about 14 years or so to recharge my batteries.

Things at Kripalu have definitely changed over the years. It’s not just the addition of coffee in the dining room (YEP!). Now there’s WiFi and it’s a little harder to completely disconnect which is one of the reasons I enjoy my time there.

Lately I’ve felt the need to unplug more often. I’d unsuccessfully tried to have a digital day of for probably a year now, and it’s been a challenge.

Finally, I realized that it was a must to live and feel the way I want. So for the past month or so, I’ve attempted to unplug on Sundays until the evening. By Sunday evening I’m usually doing my planning for the week, and often need to get online for confirming meetings, looking up information, etc. So far it’s being going ok, but it is such a habit, I find myself reaching for my phone and sliding my finger toward that Facebook icon or email inbox without even thinking.

I decided that my brief escape to Kripalu this year I would definitely unplug. I left my ipad and the shiny cool Apple watch at home. I needed my phone for navigating, safety, and let’s face it, no phone seems kind of unthinkable in today’s day and age. Plus I love Audible while on long drives.

Other than checking texts about twice a day, I managed to stay unplugged.

It was hard. Any new behavior or habit takes time. I should say it was hard at first. And then not so much. It was liberating, freeing and fun.

Being continually connected can be wonderful, but it can also be draining.

Once I got in to the swing of it, it got easier. I did lots of yoga, created art, took workshops, danced, drank a lot of tea, read, journaled, meditated and truly was able to refill the well.

Even if three days away isn’t in the realm of possibility for you right now, how can you unplug for a shorter time? A digital day off on Sundays? Devices off after 7 pm?

It’s so interesting to become aware of what happens when you don’t fill all of the space and listen.

 

Life long learning….

 

Well it doesn’t really feel like spring today, but I thought I’d go with the spring graphic anyway.

I took the last 2-3 weeks off from newslettering and blogging. Yes, I just made that word up.

There was travel, loss, training, playing, and a whole lot of other stuff on my plate, so I just decided to give myself a pass. Sometimes that’s just necessary.

Amid some big family and work commitments, I did manage to attend an amazing training this past weekend. I learned a lot about the brain, energy, feng shui, and a lot of other amazing and useful information.

One of my values is life long learning.

This happens in so many ways. It doesn’t have to be a full day of training in NYC. Reading (look for a blog soon on the books I’ve devoured in the last few months), documentaries (oooh, got some good ones to share in that category too!), podcasts (of course some podcasts are just plain fun – have you checked out We Got This! yet?) are some of my favorite ways to learn.

Since it is something I value, I make it a priority.

I aim to read at least one non fiction book and watch one documentary every month. I simply love learning. It enriches my life in so many ways.

This week I’m sharing a few learning opportunities, all FREE, and some can be done right from your computer. If you didn’t receive the email, head on over to www.interplayhealth.com and jump on my email list, or email me at kristen@interplayhealth.com and I’ll keep you in the loop.

I’m curious, who else is a life long learner, and what are your favorite ways to learn? What have you learned lately?

Last year I went big, this year I went home…

 

Today I turned 51.  Kinda surreal, as I remember thinking how incredibly old 30 was once upon a time.

Last year I threw myself a fun and elegant 50th Birthday party.  I really wanted to mark the occasion in a significant way. This year, when asked what I wanted,  I replied a chocolate cupcake and a glass of a good red, perhaps Merlot.

This morning, I filmed this impromptu video, read on before you click….

Here were my first thoughts….

I am half dressed – I have my workout bottoms on getting ready for the gym, but my pajama top still on (and incidentally the pj top is inside out).

No make up, crazy ‘just woke up’ hair.

Not a flattering camera angle.  Spontaneously hit record in the spot my phone was charging.

I’m having my morning shake and taking my supplements. Truly not interesting fodor for video.

That’s what I would typically have focused on in the first 50 years….

At second glance I see….

Joyous dancing.

Beautiful light shining into my kitchen.

Radiant spirit.

Positive energy.

And a choice to make it a great day.

Just as I used to think 30 was “old”, my perceptions on so many other things have thankfully evolved.  I’m not worried that it is not a ‘perfect’ video.

It is me being me.

I think 51 is going to be an amazing year!